THE NARCISSIST & THEIR HAREM: WHY YOU SHOULD DECLINE THE MEMBERSHIP



Think of a Narcissist like a hoarder. In the same way that a hoarder finds comfort collecting objects a Narcissist gains comfort collecting people. They don’t trouble themselves with mundane things, like right or wrong, or other people’s feelings. To them, people are objects. To a Narcissist you are either Narcissistic Supply, Potential Supply or you’re nothing. Being a narcissist is exhausting. Not only is the classic narcissist generally tasked with a never-ending marathon of confidence-boosting commitments—from publicly declared delusions of grandeur to somehow making everything about them—they're also apparently quite proficient at maintaining post-relationship contact with their exes. Oakland University researchers Lisa Welling and Justin Mogilski wanted to get a better understanding of this phenomenon of friendship, so they gathered 861 people and polled them about their reasons for staying friends with an ex. Participants were then asked to fill out questionnaires that "gave away" so-called "dark personality traits" such as narcissism and psychopathy, the Daily Mail reports. The research team's inspiration for searching out a connection with self-absorption and BFF exes stemmed from the findings of previous studies, which have repeatedly shown that those with such traits often make friends for purely "strategic" reasons. The Oakland study found a similar correlation. People who landed high scores for narcissism, for example, were found to be more likely to choose "practicality and the chance of hooking up" as reasons for prolonging a seemingly dead romantic union. "Across two studies, we identified reasons for remaining friends after a break-up and outlined how the importance of these reasons varies with sex and personality," the researchers wrote. "This research builds upon literature examining CSFs and suggests that [post-relationship friendships] are functionally similar insofar as they permit continued exchange of desirable resources." So if you're not collecting friends and exes like you're building some kind of army whose sole purpose is to make you feel awesome all the time, are you even really a narcissist? Well really YES, its visible signs of something called an ATTACHMENT DISORDER. An Attachment disorder is a broad term intended to describe disorders of mood, behaviour, and social relationships arising from a failure to form normal attachments to primary care giving figures in early childhood. Such a failure would result from unusual early experiences of neglect, abuse, abrupt separation from caregivers between 6 months and three years of age, frequent change or excessive numbers of caregivers, or lack of caregiver responsiveness to child communicative efforts resulting in a lack of basic

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