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THE UNSENT LETTER
The Unsent Letter is a journal writing technique that is just what its moniker implies–composing a letter without sending it. The letter could be addressed to a person about whom you have strong feelings-anger, admiration, gratitude, fear, and resentment. Although you could communicate directly to that person, letting your full depth of emotion might jeopardize some relationship. With no concern of what impact your words may have on an addressee, you may express yourself fully and perhaps gain clarity about ideas and issues.
Although you may address an Unsent Letter to a person with whom you have a current relationship, you may address one, for example, to someone who has died, to an ex-spouse you divorced years ago, to a childhood nemesis, or to an enigmatic character in a dream. A teacher friend of mine used Unsent Letter to vent about a particularly irksome student. Using the Unsent Letter is a great tool to release unexpressed words, to resolve unfinished business, and to let go of unresolved emotion.
In practice, journaling is whatever you want it to be. Underneath, it’s the gateway to recording life, experiencing all manner of emotions and uncovering parts of yourself you never thought existed.
When life gets uncomfortable, starts challenging our beliefs and assumptions, and leaves us feeling overwhelmed, it can feel more comfortable to retreat into: ‘Dear Diary, had macaroni for lunch’-style journaling. That’s not to say that the type of journaling you’ll find here won’t be deep and positive – it most certainly is. It’s about getting past the what happened, however, and getting to the experience, the meanings and the effects underneath.
This journal guide is here to help you get started on you journaling journey, to help you document your emotions particularly through these difficult times. But equally the journal can be used to document good times and your achievements. This guide provides some tips and suggestions on what you may like to include in your journal.
Start by purchasing a journal that reflects you, your personality, your mood. Let it reflect something that you would be inspired to write in